You’re Still Stuck In The Past But You Can’t Go Back

There are moments in your life that you’re still stuck in the past. No matter if it’s negative or positive.

Agnes Laurens
4 min readDec 7, 2019


You’re stuck because you have been through negative events.

You’re stuck in the past because you hold onto amazing things that happened while you are experiencing the opposite at the moment.

Because you don’t know how to react to that new experience, so you’re going to hold on to something positive. When you experienced negative events all the time (maybe a lot), you only think about what happened. You never got out of that.

In both cases, you’re still stuck in the past. But in different ways. How that looks for you, is for you to find out. Find it out to clean your head and make space for other things that matters to you. And feel better.

When you’re stuck in the past, in the first place you don’t know what to do, how to get out of your thoughts, have bad habits and so on. Second of all, you are having bad habits that is a cause from these negative emotions and events. This indicates that there is something you have to change or to think about. There are so many ways you can do this.

What is bothering you? Is it your friend, your spouse, your neighbors? It can be anything.

You’re stuck, but you’ve got the feeling you can’t get out of it. You don’t know how you can get out of it.

Here are some tips to follow:

  1. Write your thoughts
  2. Talk to someone to trust
  3. Go into therapy
  4. Find things you love to do
  5. Take small steps

Write your thoughts

It’s always important to write your thoughts. Just to get it ordered. It also helps as being a therapist. You parked your thoughts for a while. Your brain is getting more space for other things. Like more foom for your work, your hobbies and everything you like.

When you write everything down, you get track of what you are doing, what your thoughts are, how you felt and many more. Even when you don’t have the energy to…



Agnes Laurens

Agnes Laurens is a writer. She writes for the local newspaper. Agnes lives in The Netherlands, with three daughters.